As My  Darling Queen of  Vampyres, the right honourable KLEW  has  rightly said, we  may  need to  expand a few terms for those with peanut minds and memories.  So  She posed  this  question  ” Why don’t the kids ever bother to learn the past of the GLBT
life before the 2000? What about the hell we went thru in the 60’s,
70’s…thru 2000?”  and a  request for clarification  to those that  just do not  know  the terms   lost through age  or  lost through  the evolution of the language of “teen speak”  which seems to be  prevalent  these days. As She asked .”Stone Butch,
Stone Femme, Androgynous, Crunchy Lesbian…so many more but so many don’t truly grasp what a Butchie is…why?”. I  shall  try my  best to answer   as best I can. Terms  first then an opinion on why !


A stone butch is a lesbian or queer transgender person displaying female masculinity.[1] Stone butches usually do not like to be sexually touched genitally by their partners; however, they still provide their partners with sexual gratification and often experience pleasure themselves in doing so.

The term was popularised by Leslie Feinberg in Stone Butch Blues, a 1993 novel describing the tribulations of being a stone butch person. In the end of the novel the protagonist ultimately settles the battle between her gender identity and sexual orientation by claiming the autonomy to identify however she wishes. Atticus Lee, providing a scholarly point of view in contrast to Feinberg’s novel, argued that a stone butch is a pre-transition trans man who participates in sexual acts only to pleasure their partner(s). Jack Halberstam explores the stone butch identity in relation to transgender individuals, claiming that stone butchness is a compromise between being a lesbian and being a trans man.Both Lee and Halberstam assert that stone butch can be regarded as a gender expression/gender identity alongside sexual orientation.

Stone femme is a lesbian identity whose name was patterned after the more widely known term stone butch. Identification with the term is not necessarily dependent upon the stone femme’s physical appearance or gender expression, or upon the identity of the stone femme’s partner Some people use the term ‘stone femme’ to describe their identity in regards to their sexual identity or gender identity, their boundaries regarding the expression of either, or their sexual boundaries. Some stone femmes identify as queer, as dykes, and/or as lesbians. Others do not identify as lesbians due to the disconnect between the political and sexual connotations of the word and the reality of their personal experiences.

Androgynous (Studs and Femmes) is a lesbian who is neither masculine nor feminine in appearance or behaviour. Universally known as Unisex. Androgyny is the combination of masculine and feminine characteristics. Gender ambiguity may be found in fashion, gender identity, sexual identity, or sexual lifestyle. It can also refer to one’s singing or speaking voice.

Androgyny among humans – physical, psychological, and cultural – are attested to from earliest history and across world cultures. The ancient Greek myth of Hermaphroditus and Salmacis, two divinities who fused into a single immortal – provided a frame of reference used in Western culture for centuries. Though thiteaching seems to be dropped from  LGBT  sources.

Crunchy Lesbians, Earthy-crunchy dyke/Granola Lesbian. A lesbian who is usually vegetarian and usually either New Age or Neopagan and has a She is often considered an earth-mother type and tends to wear Birkenstocks. Femme. A lesbian who dresses in a feminine nature and has a feminine manner. To Clarify An “earth-crunchy dyke” are stereotypical lesbians or bisexual women who are usually die-hard feminists, activists, vegetarian/vegan, and embrace new age religions.


Butch and femme are terms used to describe individual gender identities in the lesbian,bisexual, transgender, and cross-dressing subcultures to ascribe or acknowledge a masculine (butch) or feminine (femme) identity with its associated traits, behaviors, styles, self-perception and so on. The terms were founded in lesbian communities in the twentieth century, but can still be seen today in LGBT culture, specifically the lesbian sub-culture. This concept has been called a “way to organize sexual relationships and gender and sexual identity”. Butch-femme culture is not the sole form of a lesbian dyadic system, as there are many women in butch–butch and femme–femme relationships.[4]

Both the expression of individual lesbians of butch and femme identities and the relationship of the lesbian community in general to the notion of butch and femme as an organizing principle for sexual relating have varied over the course of the 20th century. Some lesbian feminists have argued that butch–femme is simply a replication of heterosexual relations while other commentators argue that, while it resonates with heterosexual patterns of relating, butch–femme simultaneously challenges it. Research in the 1990s in the United States showed that “95% of lesbians are familiar with butch/femme codes and can rate themselves or others in terms of those codes, and yet the same percentage feels that butch/femme was “unimportant in their lives”.


“Butch” can be used as an adjective or a noun to describe an individual’s gender or gender performance. A masculine person of any gender can be described as butch, even though it is more common to use the term towards females with more masculine traits. The term butch tends to denote a degree of masculinity displayed by a female individual beyond what would be considered typical of a tomboy. It is not uncommon for women with a butch appearance to face harassment or violence.A butch woman could be compared to an effeminate man in the sense that both genders are historically linked to homosexual communities and stereotypes.A 1990s survey of butches showed that 50% were primarily attracted to femmes, while 25% reported being usually attracted to other butches.

“Butch Voices” biennial conferences “for masculine of center people” were held in 2009, 2011 and 2013, the last being supported by a fundraiser called Beauty and the BUTCH—”an evening of deliciously BUTCH revelry, thrilling show of tantalizing teases from queers of all genders, and choose-your-own play party adventures”.


Like the term “butch,” femme can be used as an adjective or a noun. Femmes are not “read” as lesbians or queer unless they are with a butch partner, because they conform to traditional standards of femininity. Because they do not express masculine qualities, femmes were particularly vexing to sexologists and psychoanalysts who wanted to argue that all lesbians wished to be men. Traditionally, the femme in a butch-femme couple was expected to act as a stereotypical feminine woman and provide emotional support for her butch partner. In the first half of the twentieth century, when butch-femme gender roles were constrained to the underground bar scene, femmes were considered invisible without a butch partner – that is, they could pass as straight because of their gender conformity.However, Joan Nestle asserts that femmes in a butch-femme couple make both the butch and the femme exceedingly visible. By daring to be publicly attracted to butch women, femmes reflected their own sexual difference and made the butch a known subject of desire.

The separatist feminist movement of the late 1960s and 1970s forced butches and femmes underground, as radical lesbian feminists found lesbian gender roles to be a disappointing and oppressive replication of heterosexual lifestyle. However, the 1980s saw a resurgence of butch and femme gender roles. In this new configuration of butch and femme, it was acceptable, even desirable, to have femme-femme sexual and romantic pairings. Femmes gained value as their own lesbian gender, making it possible to exist separately from butches. For example, Susie Bright, the founder of On Our Backs, the first lesbian sex periodical of its kind, identifies as femme. Beyond depictions in pornography, the neo-butch and neo-femme aesthetic in day-to-day life helped add a sense of visual identity to lesbians who had abandoned these roles in the name of political correctness.

In “Negotiating Dyke Femininity”, lesbian scholar Wendy Somerson, explains that women in the lesbian community who are more feminine and don’t fit into the “butch” stereotype can pass as straight. She believes the link between appearance and gender performance and one’s sexuality should be disrupted. because the way someone looks shouldn’t define their sexuality. In her article, Somerson also clearly talks about how within the lesbian community some are considered more masculine than others.

Today, femmes may not only be cisgender lesbians, as the queer movement has allowed for more people to identify with the label femme. For example, gender nonconforming people and transgender women have claimed use of the term. Femmes still combat the invisibility their presentation creates and assert their sexuality through their femininity.The dismissal of femmes as illegitimate or invisible also happens within the queer community itself, which creates the push for femmes to self-advocate as an empowered identity not inherently tied to butches.


Now  are you still awake ?… Because me  ? I am only just  starting to scratch the surface !And the next  bit may be confusing  so   You may need caffeine,  stretch ya  legs and  come back  and read on   DARE ya!!!

GLBT, Why did the G move? LGBT, or GLBT, is an initialism that stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender. In use since the 1990s, the term is an adaptation of the initialism LGB, which was used to replace the term gay in reference to the LGBT community beginning in the mid-to-late 1980s.As a sop to them, the letter order was changed from GLBT to LGBT by more politically correct organizations, to show how lesbian concerns hadn’t disappeared in the noise. As a result, that’s considered “the more correct ” acronym by western media.

Odds are that the younger you are, the more you hear this phrase. It’s used the way “queer” is sometimes used … it means that something is stupid, pointless, etc. Sometimes you’ll hear “faggy” or something similar used in this context, also.

Obviously (at least to me), when you say this, you’re equating being gay with being stupid or whatever. This is seriously offensive. It’s like saying “that’s so Black” or “that’s so Jewish”, although those may sound sort of silly because you’re not used to hearing them (hopefully). But it’s the same idea. It’s offensive, regardless of how you mean it, and it’s best to eliminate that phrase from your vocabulary and encourage those around you to do the same.

A lot of Queer people are also working to reclaim faggot/fag and dyke. You’ll often hear “dyke” tossed around in Queer circles. It’s about on the same level as Queer in terms of use as a prideful term, I think. “Faggot” is less accepted, possibly in part because of its horrific history. But we’re working on it. I use it from time to time in safe spaces (never on the street or in public areas because it’s still so offensive), and some of my friends do too. I think it’s important to reclaim these terms. But we need to respect those who are still offended by them, too.

So anyway, if you hear someone using terms like these, by all means call them on it. But if they are Queer, they have a right to be using them as prideful terms. (No one, regardless of whether or not they’re in the GLBT community, should be using them as offensive terms.)

Shemale, she-male, she male – there are a lot of different ways to write this, but they all mean the same thing – a person who is biologically male but is a woman. What people usually mean by this is someone who has breasts and a penis. The first part – “she” – refers to the person’s gender expression, the second part – “male” – refers to their biological sex.

The converse of shemale. Those who have read Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg (a must-read for all, by the way; powerful novel) will remember it. The “he” refers to the person’s gender expression, and the “she” refers to the person’s biological sex.

Again, this is,  under the new  regime of  understanding ! incredibly offensive to SOME  people…They aledge, It reduces those on the FTM spectrum to the “woman trying to be a man” designation, which isn’t what it’s about at all, except perhaps in a few scattered situations. Most of these people are expressing their own identity and sense of self, not “trying to be men”.

So  in polite society  “they”  would have you avoid he-she and shemale. I’m sure the reasons are more complex than I’ve been able to articulate (if you think you can do it better, please contact me and help me out), but the basic fact is that they’re very offensive, if said by some people, so  the rule of thumb is to avoid saying them … Try being respectful. But also walk the minefield of  what is  and is not acceptable.  Personally, I  like my  Queen KLew  am Old  So  ..  I will continue  until One of those people affected by the words  says  directly to me that its offensive.  But I digress..This is “He male, She Male ” an incredibly offensive terminology. “They” say It reduces those on the MTF spectrum to the old “man in a dress” designation, and I have yet to meet an MTF person who won’t bite your head off or get very upset on hearing this termOr for getting  the term  Wrong… Just say “pre-op or non-op Trans woman” to indicate someone who has breasts and a penis. (By the way, lots of intersex people have both breasts and a penis naturally.) That way  you can only  half offend who ever it is.

Now you got all that ?….there will be questions later!  Next  up  will be a  history lesson   so NO  conferring! see you all back here later,  and bring your own notepads  ffs..   Gigglesnorts  Love and sparkles Rose xx30290444822_d13d68023f_o.png